Take one more step towards your dream.

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When the enthusiasm for a new idea fades, when the passion cools, when the odds against you increase and the results diminish, when it looks as if success is impossible, will you maintain your intensity and keep going? Are you tenacious? This is the mark of people who actually achieve their dream.

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Thinking about how to pull through when all the excitement is gone? Here are some tips from the book – Put your Dream to the Test to help you with that;

Remember that every obstacle yields to a stern resolve: In plain english, every challenge responds to one’s determination to overcome.

I recently watched the movie – Hands of stone about the story of Roberto Duran, a heavy weight champion who once quit in the middle of a major fight. Notice I said quit, not lose. Whilst watching, I could already read out at least a couple of reasons why he should have quit the match;

    • He wasn’t informed of the match on time; he was literally forced to accept the fight date which was only a few months away.
    • He wasn’t prepared: He had just won the title of the heavy weight champion and was celebrating; which meant drinking, eating and getting out of form and shape; which was not  for a fight within a short period.
    • He was physically and mentally exhausted. From having to lose weight to physically training, he was always hungry and exhausted. He couldn’t understand why he needed to starve when he was wealthier and had met his goal of winning the title (he didn’t realize that winning once was different from remaining a winner, that’s another topic for another day).
    • He was not fighting because he wanted to. It wasn’t his fight – (reminds me of the ownership question – It wasn’t his dream in this context) He was fighting for everyone else but himself.

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I wondered what the difference was, in him quitting and him losing which he was doing anyway. Everyone would still be disappointed. I’m still trying to get it but he eventually got it – Roberto – he found out that his decision to stop should be because of what happens within him, rather than what happens around him.

He remembered his father left because it was too difficult taking care of the family, He quit the fight because he felt the odds were against him, he did not fight till the end to find out if the tides will turn in his favor. Even playing Candy crush has taught me this (You can check it out here ), fight till the end, only then will be able to find out if you won or lost, and then if you lose, remember it’s all part of the route to success.

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Other ways in which you can keep going even when you feel you can’t, as highlighted from the book are as follows;

Pay attention to what you are saying about the situation with your dream:

Instead of saying ”we don’t have the expertise” SAY ”Let’s network with those who do”

Instead of saying ”It will never get better” SAY ”We’ll try one more time”

 

Choose your words carefully, they can either make or break your resolve.

 

Practise the rule of Five: Every day, do 5 specific things that will move you closer to your dream. Of course, the results of this may not become obvious immediately but imagine doing that consistently for 2 years…

Tosan’s take: Passion alone will not ensure the success of your dream. The bigger the size of your dream, the longer you may need to persevere, so why not prepare to handle it rather than let it overwhelm you or make you quit. Lastly, remember;

Rule 1: Take one more step.

Rule 2: If you cannot take one more step, refer to rule no. 1

H. Jackson Brown

Dream chaser!

We all have dreams big and small even intermediate which we hope will all turn out to be the next big thing or bring us 30 billion in the account. So how do we know we are on track? Everyone has said we should dream big, others have said íf we can think it, we can do it (I can still hear it in Mo Abudu’s voice) so how are we sure we can truly do it or are ready to bring our dreams to life.

My first attempt at reading this book was over two (2) years ago. I was still in the intro section when I dropped the book sad & very discouraged. Some questions were asked to get the reader’s understanding about where they were in readiness to achieve their dreams (called the Dream Test) and as I scrolled down I could already tell that my dreams were nowhere near being achieved. I was sad and discouraged (I repeat) or let’s just say I was downcast.

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A few GOOD men…

In the light of recent happenings in the nation, we have to wonder if truly anything good can come out of our country- Nigeria; but like in the Bible times, we will always have a few good things to be grateful for.

From the humble beginnings to the Global stage, we truly have some good to showcase and export from Nigeria. Our book for the month will encourage us to be among the few good people left to showcase Nigeria to the world.

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I.N.S.A.N.I.T.Y.

I’d have to be MAD to expect different results this year when I haven’t introduced anything new or done anything differently from what I did last year. If I work the same way, at the same pace & with the same people, why should I expect change? Continue reading “I.N.S.A.N.I.T.Y.”

2018 lessons from tosansreviews.com – My bookreview blog.

 

In saying my goodbye to 2018, I want acknowledge the lessons it has taught me from the books I’ve read, the reviews I have written & running a blog.

I had planned to drop a review every month in the year but ended up with only 9 reviews (not books read, not all books make it to reviews) – this alone was a lesson on its own Continue reading “2018 lessons from tosansreviews.com – My bookreview blog.”

Man, Know thyself.

It will soon be time for new year resolutions, dos and donts going into the new year. As Socrates put it, We ought to first know ourselves before we can know the universe and God. You’d be surprised how little you really know of yourself – Tosan A.

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FOR THOSE WHO LOVE THEIR JOBS BUT HATE THEIR BOSSES…

and those who are stuck in a job they hate, and those who would not touch business even with a pole, and those who are just starting out, and those who have been at it for a little while – the list is endless. This book is for you all – REWORK.

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THINK AND GROW RICH

It is no ordinary desire that survives disappointment, discouragement, temporary defeat, criticism and the constant accusation of being a ‘waste of time’. It is a burning desire, an obsession!

It’s funny how things seem tougher when you take a decision about something or decide to make a change. You decide to lose weight by eating healthier meals then you get offers for free meals of small chops, pizzas and ice cream not once or twice and you remember you don’t even have to pay! You decide to help a friend and you find out that helping out can also be really inconvenient. It’s funny how there’s always a hurdle to cross when you make a decision or take a stand.

This book will teach you how to close the gap between ideas and achievements, good intentions and their successful completion. It will guide you on how to keep your enthusiasm while crossing those hurdles that seem positioned just for you.

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Boys thinking deep 🖖

Boys thinking deep.

That’s Spiff’s best line when all the boys in The Johnsons (a very factual and amusing Nigerian comedy series) come up with one of their authentic plans that is bound to go awry anyway. It means they thought above the average person, they thought differently or they were just too smart. How does one get to really think deeper (or better)? Well, since everything can be learned or improved upon, we are sure to get answers to that from our book today. Continue reading “Boys thinking deep 🖖”

Meet the man who drives in Lagos, Nigeria and never uses his horn up to 10 times in a year

– Does he exist? Or better still is he chauffeured?

Yes and No. He is for real and he truly does drive himself since he loves driving. So back to the question of his horn usage, 10 times in a year is almost impossible! For those outside Lagos, let me quickly give a brief description of driving in Lagos. Lagos is the 17th busiest city and 3rd worst city to drive in the world with over a million vehicles driving daily on the roads, (African Association of Public Transport, 2010, LAMATA, 2014), notice I said vehicles not just cars. We have tricycles, bikes, transport buses, pick-up vans and articulated vehicles all vying for space on Lagos roads. Not forgetting the bad roads in some areas; if you are not in Lagos, you can only but imagine the congestion.

Everyone is in a hurry, everyone feels super road-smart, everyone feels they own the road and have all the road rights. The roads are never quiet with horns blazing from defensive driving, offensive overtaking, pedestrians crossing the road right under a pedestrian bridge or using the horn as defense from mean truck drivers (this was me as a learner). So how does one drive around and keep the horn usage to less than 10 in a year not in a day??? (Now that’s a serious question).

Luckily for you, I know where you can find this intriguing person and learn more about his personality which by the way has made him a success.

The truest test of a driver is to be able to drive without waking up sleeping passengers – no horns, no sudden braking, no road rage, no thumping into potholes.

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